QUOTE(Moonhunter @ Apr 26 2007, 08:24 PM)
and I never quite felt that someone who had never worked and couldn't drive, and depended on his mother to look after all his material needs and his girlfriend to ferry him everywhere (from what the adoring fan told me about his life), had something missing.
Hokay, let me try to unpack this a little.
First, let me clear that by 'work' I am not confining my thinking to paid work. Indeed, some forms of paid work, such as those one does in near total isolation from anyone else, have less value in the context I am placing this in. For me 'work' is a multifaceted symbol. It can imply:
(1) that one is sufficiently socialised to obtain, and hold down, a paid job
(2) that one is capable of producing a product that is subject to critical demand, and has to work with others and be flexible in order to shape it to those demands
(3) that one is able to run an organisation that requires the meeting of needs of others, negotiating deadlines and resource, and involving recurrent self discipline to meet those needs, in a way that enables the organisation to function
(4) that one recognises demands on one's time and is able to deliver products or outcomes (a fancy word from non-quanitifiable things) that satisfy those who pay you, or your colleagues, or your family etc etc
Now most of us should be able to meet at least one of those criteria, whatever sort of work we do, paid or unpaid (including running a family). some of the barriers are quite low - for example, I've met an awful lot of under-socialised people in paid employment - sometimes relatively or very highly paid - who were total shites in terms of getting on with people. But they had to make some sort of adjustment to others, however inadequately, otherwise the money would stop.
What I tend to distrust is someone who isn't physically prevented from working (either biologically or socially) yet doesn't work, and chooses to be totally dependent upon others meeting her/his needs. That smacks to me of something missing - as though the person wishes not to grow up. (And pure selfishness, for example, is simply another form of not growing up - of remaining at an age of two or less).
So whether one has paid work, and whether one can drive, are not things that, in themselves, are relevant to me; but when they fit together with other things, I do sit back and wonder what it tells me about the individual.
And yes, I know that 'Amadeus' taught the lesson that genius and morality were not connected. But I'm not talking about morality here. Rather, I wonder that, if someone is so far divorced from ever having to subject any of what they do either to negotiate the needs of others in their life, or take into account other views and desires, they can manage to be, at the very least 'grounded'. And if not grounded, then what prevents them from living in a dream world where they no longer have any grasp of reality, and simply create their own rules?
I know that some geeks in the Sci-Fi world have made a mint from their geekdom. I recall, for example, a book being produced, and selling well, on the subject of technical production errors in the early Star Trek series. I have no issue with that - for Star Trek geeks. But outside the ST world, if you try to persuade me that that book will inform me about life, or even about Sci Fi in general, all it will tell me is that some people can spend their lives producing books about how many angels dance on the head of the pin, which are rapturously received by others as though it had any significance.
And at least the Star Trek book was objectively researched.