I work in a very small office. Everyone is great, funny and a bit loopy but there is one. Yes, there is always one.
She pretends she is ill and she is very very rude about people for no reason other than to catch a bit of attention. She is spiteful and malicious and my gut instinct is not to trust her.

I feel like she is sucking away my energy and making me feel weak.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Reduce all interaction to the absolute minimum. Always treat her with politeness, but otherwise, blank her.

Don't think about her at home. Try not to even get into conversations with your colleagues about her at work. Otherwise she'll take over your life, even when she's not there.

This I have endeavoured to do from the very first time I felt my energy being drained away.

I have blanked her and used politeness with her but if I blank her she reports everyone for bullying and if I am nice to her she talks at me rather than to me and I have no choice but to indulge her. It is frustrating

Tell her you are insane and that you imagine you are a witch and that she is a vampire, offer her a small phial of blood squeezed from a bit of steak as a sign of the 'Ageless compacte', and tell her you are going to impale her with a psychic stake through the heart if she doesn't comply.

If you are still frustrated after doing this, get a vibrator.

Poison the well.

When you feel her pulling at you bring up memories that evoke particular feelings. Rage, depression, sheer manic unreasonableness.

Moods can affect the 'flavour' of your energy. Think of contact highs in clubs.

If the energy affects her to the point where she acts enraged or unreasonable at work then she will put herself one or several steps closer to being let go. On a lesser scale, she may just find herself terribly depressed whenever she is around you and just start avoiding you.

Either way, you win. And if you are worried that this is too hostile a response, think of her as a thief. She is stealing your energy, and if what she steals bites her in the ass it's her own damn fault.

unsung

put her or yourself in a mirrored bubble
that way you are safe

Ah, vampires normally raise the bullying accusations. Rhiannon gave the standard mundane advice for dealing with bullies in this thread

You can try using the excuse that you have work to do when she tries to talk to you. If she ignores that, you could try telling her that, when she talks to you you feel she is talking at you, rather than holding a conversation, and see what happens. The 'you feel' bit is important because, if you simply tell her that's what she's doing, then it will turn inot a 'punch and Judy' with her denying it and accusing you of bullying, but if it's a matter of your feelings, then she isn't in a position to tell you you don't feel that. She may try, of course!

I'm missing something here. If everyone but this one toxic personality is fine, why can't you or all of the rest go to the straw-boss? If nobody says anything to the bosses but her, you all DO look like bullies and she gets to look like a martyr.

Marto

The next time this woman starts off on one - fix her with a meaningful gaze and say "Have you let Jesus into your life yet? He will solve everything. Come let us pray together . . ."


Actually Marto's more down to earth method is most likely to get results. However, you and all of your colleagues will need to have a word with the boss - otherwise, management being generally lazy and useless will do what they normally do and transfer the victim to another department rather than the bully. Tell the bossman or woman that this person's behaviour is disrupting everyone else's workflow - they are more likely to take notice of this than just saying we don't get along.


I know exactly where you are coming from though. We used to have a woman in our section who was honest, hardworking, and well-meaning but couldn't help being a pain in the arse. Whatever work system you'd got in place, she'd have a better idea. Whatever you were talking about socially, she would always have some anecdote of something similar happening to her but with with a disaster of Old Testament proportions. Someone treated a friend of her husband's to a police lady strip-o-gram - " . . . And he got all that baby oil she'd rubbed on herself, in his eye - he couldn't see for weeks!!" I suspect his loss of vision had a more Onanistic explanation. Even when we were having a Christmas Eve do, she came in with the gloomy observation "Mother and I have just seen a man exposing himself in the churchyard."

No you are not missing something but I would not be here if that was so simple. This has been done a million times, the bosses know, the world knows, she knows.
But, until she does something so awful, so unspeakable nothing can be done (thanks stupid Unions and human rights) - now we have to suffer!! I love the fact that is there to protects us lets us suffer - UK has it all wrong!

She is very gloomy, you know if someone dies - she has had all her family die, if someone has a cold, she has the plague!
I have answered Marto's comment - there is no budging!

Right, A good strong Bansishing Ritual, don't aim it specifically at her, Banish and protect yourself from feelings of negaitivity.

If that dosen't work and the defensive tactic hasnt worked then a offesive strantery is needed. Use Magic to get her out of your life. You are on a Fourm asking for advice about dealing with this problem person. Remover her, use the Morrigan, Or Artemis, Or Freya, and get her out of your life.
Your a Witch-act like one.

Having had the misfortune of being leeched on by unscrupulous, or just plain unaware psychic suckers before, I'd agree with JohnOdin - a good solid Banishing ritual, and Shielding from further negativity from this person. The problem with Vampires is the tendancy to get flustered and waste energy on/throw negative energy at them, which is exactly what they want, after all.
Don't get 'sucked in' (ha. ha.)
I find the Norse deities, particularly Thor and Heimdall, take a dim view of these kind of underhand shenanigans and they have been very helpful in the past, but of course you may be sympathetic to different deities/powers-what-does.

Good luck.

Hedgepig.

I agree

Put on some ritual robes to wear at work. Do a lesser, greater and (just to cover all the bases ) 'medium' banishing spell AT THE OFFICE! Put objects of banishment and power all around your work space. Get some good 'spirit mirrors' from a Chinese Joss shop and hang them around your workspace as well. Just to make things perfectly clear, put a poppet with her name on it in a prominent place. And just for that extra soupcon of safety, before you sit down, put a circle of salt around yourself.

Of course, you'll soon be an unemployed witch, but you will have kept your integrity!

Marto

(it's a joke, John)

++(thanks stupid Unions and human rights)++


All sympathy just magically vanished. IMO, if YOU have rights, other's should too even if you don't happen to like that person. Even with 'stupid human rights', there are supports in place for a situation where someone is being extremely obnoxious and/or not doing their job. I know, because I've fired people in the U.K., union people. As long as one follows due process, there is no problem. The same goes for your boss or bosses. If they are not doing their job, they can be disciplined.

I would suggest that if this person is making your work day a living hell that you look around for other employment. Your good health is worth more than any job. When asked why you are leaving, be honest and straight forward but without any drama. This will alert the people at the top that there is both a staff and a management problem.

Good luck.

Marto

This reminds me of a young girl I used to work with when I was a library assistant. She was lazy and not committed to her work which annoyed me so I admit I had been sharp with her on several occasions. Eventually she decided it wasn't for her and moved on. When I cleared out her desk to put new stationery there for her successor I found an eraser with an approximation of my face on (I could tell without a doubt as I had a shaved head at the time and she had meticulously reproduced all my piercings ) stuck full of thumb tacks, pins and staples It hadn't affected me so seemingly my mojo was stronger than hers !

Somebody pisses me off, I tell them to get tae fuck. End of.

But that's just me.

Im with Tas on this one! Tell her where to go!
Couple more steps, talk to everyone else and send her to Coventry, leave suitable job adverts on her desk, obviously purely for her betterment!