Well, I've been called many things in my time...
I'm also a former Christian, with a chequered history (Anglican, in the guise of the Church in Wales, then Plymouth Brethren with the odd foray into the Baptists along the way). I fell out with Christianity in the early 2000's, when I was late 30's, early 40's.
Since then, the general nature of my meanderings has remained fairly constant, but the details and contents have changed over time. That's fine. The journey is the issue, not the destination. Ithaca calls, but Phoenician markets and Egyptian cities have the greater import (poetic reference - just means follow your path and hope to arrive late, if at all). What I believe tomorrow may be very different to what I believe today. What I believed yesterday is just a stepping stone.
In short, don't worry about what you have been, as it is merely the pathway that got you to what you are, and don't worry about where you are going, there are any number of bye-ways for you to explore.
As to others - I have struggled with family pressures and the tyranny of monotheistic faith. I understand your position and have no issue with a softly-softly approach such as you describe. In fact, it is the best way unless you are prepared to create and weather a family rift.
9 hours ago, Moonsmith said:
My own beliefs have been evolving for decades. I don’t suppose that they will change much more
Dangerous statement. Talk about tempting fate...!