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How Do You Remember The Dead?


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Whether it be a grave, a casket of ashes, or simply the mental images and sounds of those who have gone, I think that whatever method soothes our own sorrow or hope, is a perfectly fine way to remember the dead.

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Oh i agree. It also is what governs us to return to them.

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For me, I talk aloud to my parents sometimes when the need arises. I do nothing at any specific time, but I do carry their struggle to raise me, and their devotion to me inside close to my heart. I try to live as a dedication for them to be honest, be the best man I can be.

They had a grave where they were both buried, but I have never been back as I feel it is more for my benefit than theirs, they have moved on.

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The dead aren't gone they have just moved on its only there body's that have died, remember them with every laugh you make every song you sing and most of all remember them for they have not gone as long as you remember them.

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I think about them and at Samhain light a candle or two. I tend to talk to some of them as well, espexially my grandfather. No big deal, no big ritual, just a friendly chat evry now and then. :)

 

I do not want a grave for myself. I´d like my ashes to be spread in the forest. And a big party to go with it, with music, food, drinks and a couple of fire-eaters and perhaps a jester. :D

 

Blessings

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we have candles burning every night. and when im down or upset or frustrated i will goto my grandads bedroom (he lived with us) and talk to him.. i also have pictures and things of my niece to remember her by and i talk to her too :) they are happy so i dont grieve for them!

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I was taught a ritual a long time ago when I was a lot younger.

 

At Yule, I take a bottle or a horn of mead (You can make non-alcoholic mead by reducing a citrus, honey and water mixture - the citrus is to prevent it being too sweet. I never use this.), and I sit with a friend or a circle of friends, and drink in turns (first, I pour some on the ground outside); first to a deity (I've drank with atheists who chose now to drink to something they appreciate about the world - even fine weather), then to someone who is present or at least available to me; then I drink to someone who has passed on. They needn't be dead, but they have to be lost to you or dead. Then you do it again, until the bottle or horn are gone. Then I serve honey cakes, and we remember who we are, who we have been, and I give a cake to the Gods in thanks for the year.

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I indulge in my weird tree obsession. I go and talk to the trees because they are hundreds of years old, and, though where I live now is far from where I know my Ancestors would have been around (Jorvik, even, was under Danelaw and only a few Norwegians were with the Danes... we preffered Scotland and Ireland) I go and talk to the trees because they must have seen thousands of people come and go. Perhaps they knew some Danes, apparently there were Norse in the area I live now (near Winchester, actually... makes sense they'd be there to confront Kong Aelfred) but, still.

 

Plus also, I believe in Landspirits, so who knows? Maybe the Landspirits talk with my ancestors. As for my direct lineage? I don't really get on with anyone - parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles. I alienated myself by being smart enough to question their beliefs but too dumb to keep my mouth shut and ask open minded people :) nevertheless, life is a learning experience... so we can get drunk in the afterlife without worrying too much.

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