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Being Nice.

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I have always been of the opinion do to others what you want done to you. There is nothing wrong with please and thank you, in all honesty I think there should be much more of it. I have heard the term people pleaser and was called one by a few friends of mine. Now I am off the opinion that I will not go above and beyond anything unless there is a dire needed i.e. my kids, hubbie and close friends, I only have a few off them. I am not going to take on board other peoples problems and try to keep toxic friends out of my life as much a possible, in the past as I have tired to be there for everyone else I have not been their for me and in the end I had various episodes of depression. I am moving away from trying to please and be everything to everyone as it is what made me ill in the first place. However, I still smile at people, say hello and would help someone cross the street if needed, general acts of kindness.

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Hi, I only joined yesterday, but thought I'd add to this thread. I think most people are a mixture of nice and not nice to varying degrees and depending on the situation they're in at the time. Also depending on what experiences they've had in the past. Often people who appear not nice come over that way because they have been damaged at some point (sometimes by other humans, or an unfortunate experience). Also, sometimes people who appear to be nice are not being so and vice versa. I think humans are very complicated. Just a thought.

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