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Learning To Switch Off My Mind!


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In all honesty I cannot tell you the last time I truly relaxed , I always have lots of things going on in my mind and can never push them out. I over think things a lot and never seem to me truly at peace with myself. I have only been fully relaxed twice both were at a spa in a room wih just me essential oils burning soft music playing etc and both after a massage . Ive tried in vain to recreate this situation but just can never let go. I have 3 children which I suppose makes it harder. Sometimes I dream of a meadow or woody area and it seems so peaceful but I cant find anywhere near me that even begins to resemble it . Any ideas as to how I can start to elax would be really helpful , I have a lot going on at the min and would like a break from it even just for a hour x

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I know what that is like! You must make time for yourself though. After my wee one is in bed I try to light some candles, play soft music and concentrate on my breathing. Each breath inhaled is new, fresh and positive, each breath exhaled is all the stress. If that is not your thing, then I suggest finding a hobby that helps you relax.

 

Or, perhaps you need to talk to a friend about whats going on? Sometimes just talking makes a difference. Hope this helps and good luck :) x

 

Ps welcome :)

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It sounds very stressful :(

 

Have you tried recreating the spa at home, bath, candlelight, soothing music etc?

 

What about gardening? If you have even a tiny patch of ground to plant some pots up, it's incredibly relaxing and therapeutic.

 

Another thing I find good for just clearing your mind is yoga, or other exercising like a gym class.

 

You can certainly try meditating but it is difficult with the kids I'd imagine. Have you tried that?

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How about Highgate common. At the weekend it is filled with dog walkers and in the evenings it is a place for dogging....... but during the day it is quite empty. It is huge, with woods and a lovely pond full of newts and a good mix of open and wooded spaces. I used to live in Dudley and found it difficult to find a place to go that wouldn't be full of other folk trying to get away. I have to say we tended to make Shropshire one of our weekend haunts. Lots of lovely walks..... ruined abbeys and not too crowded.

 

Mike

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whats dogging? do you mean jogging.having a good run with loud classics in your ears is quite surprisingly relaxing.xx

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Nah..... meeting up for sex with strangers. Which might, I suppose, be relaxing in its own way, but I'm not sure its what Paganbaby had in mind.

 

Have you ever tried creating the meadow/wood you have dreamed of in your mind? It might seem odd at first, but after a while a place one builds in the mind can become familiar and easy to access.

 

Mike

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Lol at the Dogging hehe . Ive never been tbh Fortuna might give it a try though now the weather is picking up. Thanks for your suggestions I think im going to try to get an hours peace tonight , im taking the dog somewhre new and hoping it quiet :) x

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How about a visit to Sandwell Valley County Park which among other things has The Country Park covers over 660acres, including two farm visitor centres, three Local Nature Reserves, an RSPB Nature Centre, woodland, meadows. I can imagine a walk through those woods and meadows could be quite peaceful.

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I find nothing better than to get lost in a good book after the children have gone to bed. It is one form of relaxation for me or as Mike said, could taking up dogging, good form of relaxation lol (couldn't resist).

 

There is the age old relaxing in the bath, nice music, candle light, plenty of bubbles and just loose yourself for a bit.

 

I have a quick relaxation technique, has to be done in a quiet area without any distractions.

Sit upright in a comfortable position put your hands on your stomach breath in for the count of three, fill your lungs up with air and breath out for 6 slowly. Your mind could tend to wonder but I find that focusing on my breathing helps it not to. I do this for 10 minutes and then set to work on my tarot cards.

 

It is important to have some time to yourself during the day or evening otherwise you will not switch off.

 

You can also try what other have suggested and see what works best for you to be honest.

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How about a visit to Sandwell Valley County Park which among other things has The Country Park covers over 660acres, including two farm visitor centres, three Local Nature Reserves, an RSPB Nature Centre, woodland, meadows. I can imagine a walk through those woods and meadows could be quite peaceful.

 

I used to walk down the the ruined Abbey & spring during the day, although I would avoid at night due to Drug Dealers etc. Although you can here the hum of the Motorway

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