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  1. i have thoughts about how i am going to do this , i have decied depends on the weather i want to do stuff during the day and at night before midnight day i will be going out to a place i rerally like and found peace while walking there even when there is children there playing people bring there dogs and there is nature there i love walking as well one of my things i do to relax then come home light a candles play music have good food for us and the God/Goddeses then say good bye to the spirit and say hello to the new life .. welcome to nature the following morning go back to the place i like and welcome the new life there
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  2. To continue in the same vein: LAKOTA CODE OF ETHICS 1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak. 2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy - and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance. 3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you. 4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor. 5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours. 6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth - whether it be people or plant. 7. Honor other people's thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression. 8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you. 9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven. 10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism. 11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family. 12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life's lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow. 13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you. 14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe. 15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self - all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails. 16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions. 17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others - especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden. 18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first. 19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others. 20. Share your good fortune with others.
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  3. Hi! Welcome to my self-absorbed drivel. I don't quite know where to start about this, but after years of trying to be a Christian, I'm exploring being a Pagan. Actually, I'd go as far as to say I am one, and was before in my late teens and early twenties. I grew up in an Evangelical household and my parents are now Pentecostal deacons. I started to question my faith from an early age, and later started to practice Wicca and study legends and folk customs. I had some health problems that made me a lot more dependent on family. I don't see any reason to ever let my parents or other family members know about my beliefs as that would be devastating for them, but they ask about church and my spiritual life every time I see them. In my mid twenties I started to think that I had to compromise with my parents over my beliefs if they were ever to accept other life choices I made. I have had relationships they wouldn't accept and didn't want to alienate myself from them even further. I wanted to be pragmatic. There was truth in virtually every belief system so I might as well re-adopt Christianity, find a progressive church and live as good a life as I could like that. So I did that for years, as a secretly pantheistic Christian who went to a church that worshipped God using male, female and gender-neutral pronouns and lived what most people would describe as a secular life outside of church. I'd left Christianity because so much harm was done in the name of a set of beliefs. Then I came back because I didn't want to cause harm to my parents in the name of beliefs, religion or the lack of it. How people are treated should always come first. Then aged 43, in January during the lockdown, I went 'pop'. It was like I'd been getting more and more resentful and thirsting after Earth-based spirituality. It was a need and I'm not sure it can be denied because I need to feel alive. I've been studying various pagan traditions ever since and have taken a break from church (my vicar knows all of this and is great about it). Not attending church is unacceptable in my family. I feel so behind though. Most people I meet or come across on social media has years of experience and say they've been practicing since they were teenagers. I once heard someone say that yes, there are many paths up the same mountain but if you keep changing paths you never reach the top. Do you agree, or not? Is anyone else here a new older pagan? Is it at all common?
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  4. From the Secret Garden (a surprisingly pagan old classic) “Sometimes since I've been in the garden I've looked up through the trees at the sky and I have had a strange feeling of being happy as if something was pushing and drawing in my chest and making me breathe fast. Magic is always pushing and drawing and making things out of nothing. Everything is made out of magic, leaves and trees, flowers and birds, badgers and foxes and squirrels and people. So it must be all around us. In this garden - in all the places”
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  5. My advice would be to get out in the fresh air. Spend some time somewhere that makes you feel happy, at peace, or uplifted. Some people are drawn to high places, or beaches, or forests, or waterfalls, but whatever resonates with you is right for you. It doesn't even matter if you try different environments and nothing seems to speak to you right away. Don't feel you have to do, or say, or feel anything in particular. Instead, just relax, listen to the wind, feel the sun, or the rain, and just be. Maybe moonlight, or stargazing fill you with awe? That is something else to explore. You are already on your path, it will reveal itself as you move along it. Good luck, and have fun with it!
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  6. Tonight I will be raising a glass to freedom of expression. To shamelessly name and celebrate what we hold dear and what we share by way of creativity, ritual, story and song. May all on here feel free in your paganism! 😁🌿
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  7. Anyone can do it - even the most sceptical - I know, because I have a friend who is a Yorkshire man and he is the most sceptical person I have ever met. He held the hazel twigs so tight (he is very strong having been a prop forward for Halifax in his day) that the bark stripped off the twigs as they fought to move in his hands 😄 You should have seen his face!
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  8. Thank you. Yes, I'm starting to think it's the journey that matters. What a gorgeous image! I'd love to get back to the fells, there's something new around very corner there.
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  9. I've had varying degrees and natures of commitment to Christianity since I was at school but I've also always had pagan leanings and for quite a long time now my path has been entirely pagan. It's unproblematic in that my family and friends think it's harmless eccentricity, but I imagine it would be different if I took a strongly pagan stance on something. For me personally it's important to listen to what's going on around me and work out my path accordingly, so I celebrate the presence of many paths up the same mountain and have no concerns about reaching the top. I imagine that, like almost any walk in the fells, what currently looks like the top is just another place to see the next top from. Dangerous statement. Talk about tempting fate...! Definitely!! 😁
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  10. Late, as I have been away, but hope all who celebrate it had a good one
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  11. Well, I suppose if you exclaim the name of someone else's deity, it is suitably meaningless and innocuous to the exclaimer. Thinking about it, I occasionally use "Jesus wept" - old habit from way back, probably even my pre-Christian days, let alone pre-pagan. Regarding "god willing", I know Christians who use that habitually, or even "DV", though it escapes me as to why strongly anti-catholic types would refer to Latin. I do have an issue with it - for the evangelicals, it is part of their evangelising strategy to advertise their "faith" and "dependence on god". At best (as they see it), it will give them the chance to start a "conversation" (thinly veiled personal preaching session), and at worst, it is a form of subliminal planting of a message. And that issue is quite apart from the fact I've never seen an instance of god's will that is not, quite clearly, based on the desires of the individual human.
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  12. I still do that now. I remember relatives doing it when I was growing up. For some reason, I sort-of equate sinister/left with going widdershins. When I was at school we read a story that freaked me out at the time in which something bad happened if anyone travelled widdershins around something. I don't recall any of the details, but it definitely scared me big-time.
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  13. I’m getting feelings of deja-typed but I’ve said something similar on other forums so if this turns out to be a repeat - respect your elders rather than mock😄 At last! A joyful Beltane to you all. The holly isn’t out with the Hawthorne this year but I guess that is Beltane 20th May 2021.
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  14. When I was younger I was obsessed (as many were in the 90s) with the idea of wealth.... One day I read a quote (well part of a quote) from Seneca the younger that has stuck with me since then... I remind myself of it quite often to stop myself longing for things I don't have.
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  15. Just arrived new today at The Valley. The Lakota Code of Ethics has given me such a lift and worked as a positive affirmation for me. Thank you Earthdragon.
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  16. Books are not and cannot be anything more than inspiration when it comes to describing personal belief. No human is perfect, so what they write is at risk of this imperfection. If humans could perfectly describe what can only be held as faith then there is no reason to believe you could perfectly understand your own world without their help. However we can't and we all have to ultimately figure it out on our own. Unless you want a religion spoonfed to you, a book can only be a sounding board, a vague set of directions. Unfortunately, not all of us can get out into nature. It is tone deaf to ignore that for many, this is out of reach. For many minorities in Britain, for example, rural areas are openly hostile to their presence and they do not feel welcome. It's not enough for them to simply "ignore it". For many, books end up the only escapism out of the world that wants to suck them dry and into some form of spiritual comfort.
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  17. “Go out in the woods, go out. If you don't go out in the woods nothing will ever happen and your life will never begin.” ― Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype I've seen this somewhere else recently - maybe on this very page - apologies if so! I very much agree with it.
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  18. I’ve found this to be true. I had jellyfish around me a lot in my early 20’s because I had weak boundaries and needed the extra support!
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  19. I believe that animals pop up in my life when their guidance is needed, but that whales and rabbits resonate heavily with me in the long term. I resonate with rabbits because I have long term trauma, and they mirror what I often feel- the fight or flight responses, being watched, feeling nervous like a prey animal, etc. I’ve come to expect any rabbits in my dreams to represent me. I actually also own two house rabbits, and it’s quite healing maintaining a positive relationship with them.
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  20. "You have been telling the people that this is the Eleventh Hour, now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour. And there are things to be considered . . . Where are you living? What are you doing? What are your relationships? Are you in right relation? Where is your water? Know your garden. It is time to speak your Truth. Create your community. Be good to each other. And do not look outside yourself for the leader." Then he clasped his hands together, smiled, and said, "This could be a good time!" "There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold on to the shore. They will feel they are torn apart and will suffer greatly. "Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above water. And I say, see who is in there with you and celebrate. At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, Least of all ourselves. For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt. "The time for the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves! Banish the word struggle from your attitude and your vocabulary. All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration. "We are the ones we've been waiting for." -- attributed to an unnamed Hopi elder Hopi Nation Oraibi, Arizona
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  21. In reply to this topic. I honestly do not believe there are any specific books to read to become a pagan, also i do not believe one becomes one. I believe that with spirituality, life paths , anything is based on internalisation. Its the same with singing or writing, in order to sing one has to internalise the song. In order to understand one has to internalise the understanding. Feed it from the root, the wick that lights the flame. I think there is a path for all and each person has their own way. Though I do believe nature plays a big role in paganism and magic. One can learn things from books are other people though a spell is a spell and it has to be cast, which one does with their internal focus. I dont read much but a little of this and that, I find it very fulfilling to learn about folktales, stories, myths, listen to peoples life visions. Listen with open ears. At the moment I am listening to a series of podcasts This Mythic Life Podcast - SHARON BLACKIE Its very enriching to listen to these. There is food for thought and in some I find a reflection of what ripples in my own soul. In each of us is a portal and the question is what makes you enter this portal, what suits you best. For me writing is a vein, a root. Ive always liked working with symbolism, creativity, and when I write I can journey. Later often I recognise something in what I read or hear from or through others. I just think the path chooses you sooner or later you will know. greets Anne
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  22. Primarily in the absence of doctrine. I can think along whatever bye-ways I see fit. This is important because I know what it is to be imprisoned by the doctrinaire wielding their doctrines. No longer will I be told what to believe.
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  23. He says "become a pagan" and the title of the incorporates the phrase "the true pagan". I think "become a real pagan" was me paraphrasing 😁
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  24. Just been doing a bit of reading on this trying to find some research. It’s worth mentioning that while the dictionary doesn’t seem to distinguish between divining, dowsing and radesthesia; I do. I only have experience of physical dowsing: locating pipe work and electric cables - this I would call dowsing. The more psychic uses such as asking questions or map dowsing are beyond my experience. This I would call radesthesia.
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  25. If you discovered that dowsing rods worked usefully ( I can’t claim “accurately” because I can miss by half a pace) say eighty percent of the times you used them; would that answer your question? That is approximately my hit rate. It has taken time to establish the different way that I convert my reaction to tool movement. I once stared at the ground looking for some highly improbable stimulus while my wife laughed. I was standing beneath a power line. I had however realised that the rods were moving strangely. I suspect that successful or consistent repetition might answer your more general inquiry. Indeed😄. The more his muscles were braced against the twig the more effort he would apply to movement. I wonder why no one has done research into the initial stimulus. It’s one of the few science projects that I can think of that could be carried out at relatively low cost, at least to the stage where data is handed over to neuroscience. Unfortunately I do not think there is a PhD to be found in the back yard on this one.
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  26. Now! I wonder what sort of reply folk here are anticipating from me😄. Well firstly this post is just my own experience and my opinion. Your beliefs and thinking are your own and safe from me. I have dowsed successfully using wires. I have found water pipes and sewers that I did not know existed. My view is that anyone can do it and that it is a biological response to ......... now that I am unsure of as yet. I do not see it as a psychic phenomenon but perhaps that depends upon your definition of psychic. I do not see it as anything connected with the materials used in the dowsing process. I can dowse equally effectively with rods of steel, copper, plastic or wood. On the other hand it may be that for some, the dowser’s awareness of those materials affects their response. In my opinion the dowsing tool has nothing to do with reception of the input stimulus (water, electric current, subterranean metal object etc.). It is the human (mammalian? animus?) dowser that picks up the information. The pendulum, rods, hazel twig are outputs alerting the dowser to a stimulus that they have picked up but of which they are not conscious. In other words: The dowser is the dowsing tool. The response is physical. The pendulum etc. is just an indicator. There are Australian well dowsers making a living from their talent and who do not need any tool at all. They have developed an awareness of their own reaction. It’sa very interesting subject and one which needs further scientific investigation. I am wondering whether mammals (and others) are aware of subtleties in gravity but that is pure conjecture.
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  27. Wristwatches? I still wear mine. Not sure how smart it is. It’s polished, does that count?
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  28. Probably moreso now with smart watches etc. I think the reference was to those strange and alien "young people" who have never worn a watch but use the gesture in any case. I remember with double-decker buses, the two storeys were refereed to as "inside" and "on top", which I always imagined came from the open top buses that come out in the summer in some places. Apparently, though, it's a survivor from the days of trams, but I wonder if it came from stagecoaches before then. Apologies for the digression ED - this has very little to do with "touch wood". I see pagan references almost everywhere but perhaps not in the way that the parts of buses get named.
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  29. I've met people who, even in the domain of the so called mentally healthy, despise those who would turn to others for help. I've seen one of these hard liners put in a situation where she was unable to help herself and her opinions changed radically. She not only sought help but now has a voluntary job helping others in the same way she was helped. For a lot of people it's that sort of ignorance - they mistake their own lack of current need as (a) some sort of moral strength (and therefore those without it lack moral fibre), and (:o_rainbow: something that will always be so. Some never find the strengths to face their own weakness by being able to admit that they, too, have needs and dependencies. This is a form of emotional weakness, not a strength - whether emotional, mental or moral. And pagans are people as well - why shouldn't our own communities include those who cannot cope with things they fear, such as people very different from themselves? Yeah, it's sure depressing to meet such prejudice, especially when it's aimed at yourself, but it's just a matter of finding other pagans who are more understanding. Such as this forum. :) In the UK the government doesn't seem to be able to figure out how the break down the social prejudice surrounding mental health. Back in the 80s we used to lock people away in institutions. The then PM, Mrs Thatcher, seemed to think if we closed all the institutions and put the people in them back 'in the community' it would do the trick. Nope. To do that required proper financing of nursing and other support, which didn't happen. So there were a few high profile deaths that the media sprang on and published with shrill cries of alarm, which made a lot of folk even more prejudiced and fearful than before. Ho hum. There still isn't the support, though it's marginally better. One of my staff has a grown son with severe autism. He lives at home. His PCT reduced his medication a couple of months ago, which, as his mother says, is fine - but not when combined with moving the community nurses from a system of each patient having one nurse dedicated to them, to a rota system, where the patient is expected to tell each different nurse, once a week, their whole medical history and diagnosis. This particular lad can't cope with it. There are days when his mother (who suffers severe arthritis) and father can't get him out of bed because of this double whammy. Which means she picks up every cold going through sheer exhaustion and then she's ill - but still has to help her son. Aaarrgh! I'll go before this rant becomes extended....
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